Relationships

Jealousy/Uncle

10.04.18

Question

Hi I'm an uncle (not by blood) to several kids, and I love them dearly and enjoy all the time I get to spend with them. A friend of mine (who's also an uncle, not by blood) to these kids, seems to be the favorite. It makes me feel jealous and I don't know why I feel this way or how to deal with this emotion. I know deep down these kids love me. It's just that sometimes I forget that or start to doubt it when I see them with the other uncle or if they prefer to spend time with him rather than me. Do you have any suggestions on how I can deal with this issue? Thanks.

Answer

To the Questioner, 

It is certainly very praiseworthy that you are in touch with your feelings and that you seek to balance them out. See Pirkei Avot 4:21.

I would suggest that you try to think back during your life (even from a very young age like 3-4), if there was ever a situation where there was someone else in your life who should have been treated equal to you but was given much favoritism. 

Please let me know if you can think of someone like this. 


 

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