עברית
Women
Are There Remedies to Help Conceive?
Question
I have been trying to conceive for almost 8 months without success. Are there any remedies that could help? Thank you very much.
Answer
Greetings,
Here are some remedies that may assist in conceiving:
1. Observing the mitzvah of sending away the mother bird, performed by both the husband and wife, is a remedy for viable offspring (as mentioned in the Midrash Devarim Rabbah, Parashat Ki Teitzei, Section 6, and what is the reward for this mitzvah? If you have no children, I will give you children, as it is stated, "You shall surely send away the mother" and what reward do you receive? You will take the offspring for yourself. The Sefer HaChinuch states in Mitzvah 613 that this mitzvah preserves existence, as children are the continuation of humanity and its memory. Likewise, the book Maimon HaGadol, Part 12, Chapter 1, Section 61, notes that Rabbi Ovadia Yosef, zt"l, advised a couple who had not yet conceived to observe the mitzvah of sending away the mother. He also encouraged the wife to assist in finding the nest. See also the book Derech Sichah, Part 1, Page 57, citing Rabbi Chaim Kanievsky, shlit"a).
2. After lighting Shabbat candles, the woman should recite Hannah's prayer from 1 Samuel, Chapter 2, verses 1-10. It is good to understand what she is saying and to pray with intention (Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, Section 85, Paragraph 2, and mentioned in Kaf HaChaim, Section 276, Letter D).
3. Two esteemed Kohanim in the Land of Israel should mention the individual’s name for salvation daily before the priestly blessing and focus on them during the blessing (Responsa Teshuvot Vehanhagot, Part 1, Section 595, and Part 4, Section 246).
4. Ask the mohel or sandek before the circumcision to mention the names for salvation (Teshuvot Vehanhagot, Part 1, ibid).
5. Carefully examine the mezuzahs, even if purchased from an expert, as it is common for minor errors to invalidate them. Then check the sections and boxes of the tefillin to ensure they are valid and beautiful. Finally, check the ketubah, as it is common for the names to be improperly written, requiring a new ketubah according to the law (Teshuvot Vehanhagot, Part 4, ibid).
6. A wonderful remedy is to commit that on the night of immersion, if Hashem helps and she conceives, to recite "Nishmat Kol Chai" entirely with intention and joy. It is good to set aside charity on the night of immersion for Torah scholars, who will pray that through this, the couple will merit children who are Torah scholars (Teshuvot Vehanhagot, ibid).
7. Pray at the grave of Hannah the prophetess, who is buried near her son Samuel the prophet, as well as at the grave of Rachel our matriarch (many recommend reading about Hannah's story and her prayer there. The reason for praying specifically at these places is that both experienced great sorrow before they merited children).
8. Seek blessings from the great and righteous of the generation, as a righteous person's blessing makes an impression. A righteous person decrees, and Hashem fulfills.
Wishing you good news soon,
Hillel Meirs
1. Observing the mitzvah of sending away the mother bird, performed by both the husband and wife, is a remedy for viable offspring (as mentioned in the Midrash Devarim Rabbah, Parashat Ki Teitzei, Section 6, and what is the reward for this mitzvah? If you have no children, I will give you children, as it is stated, "You shall surely send away the mother" and what reward do you receive? You will take the offspring for yourself. The Sefer HaChinuch states in Mitzvah 613 that this mitzvah preserves existence, as children are the continuation of humanity and its memory. Likewise, the book Maimon HaGadol, Part 12, Chapter 1, Section 61, notes that Rabbi Ovadia Yosef, zt"l, advised a couple who had not yet conceived to observe the mitzvah of sending away the mother. He also encouraged the wife to assist in finding the nest. See also the book Derech Sichah, Part 1, Page 57, citing Rabbi Chaim Kanievsky, shlit"a).
2. After lighting Shabbat candles, the woman should recite Hannah's prayer from 1 Samuel, Chapter 2, verses 1-10. It is good to understand what she is saying and to pray with intention (Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, Section 85, Paragraph 2, and mentioned in Kaf HaChaim, Section 276, Letter D).
3. Two esteemed Kohanim in the Land of Israel should mention the individual’s name for salvation daily before the priestly blessing and focus on them during the blessing (Responsa Teshuvot Vehanhagot, Part 1, Section 595, and Part 4, Section 246).
4. Ask the mohel or sandek before the circumcision to mention the names for salvation (Teshuvot Vehanhagot, Part 1, ibid).
5. Carefully examine the mezuzahs, even if purchased from an expert, as it is common for minor errors to invalidate them. Then check the sections and boxes of the tefillin to ensure they are valid and beautiful. Finally, check the ketubah, as it is common for the names to be improperly written, requiring a new ketubah according to the law (Teshuvot Vehanhagot, Part 4, ibid).
6. A wonderful remedy is to commit that on the night of immersion, if Hashem helps and she conceives, to recite "Nishmat Kol Chai" entirely with intention and joy. It is good to set aside charity on the night of immersion for Torah scholars, who will pray that through this, the couple will merit children who are Torah scholars (Teshuvot Vehanhagot, ibid).
7. Pray at the grave of Hannah the prophetess, who is buried near her son Samuel the prophet, as well as at the grave of Rachel our matriarch (many recommend reading about Hannah's story and her prayer there. The reason for praying specifically at these places is that both experienced great sorrow before they merited children).
8. Seek blessings from the great and righteous of the generation, as a righteous person's blessing makes an impression. A righteous person decrees, and Hashem fulfills.
Wishing you good news soon,
Hillel Meirs
