עברית
Faith
Soulmate Connection in the Current Generation
Question
Hello and blessings, Hidabroot team. First and foremost, thank you for your gracious work. May we all merit the revelation of Mashiach promptly, amen! I encountered a question recently from a certain woman who was in a relationship for several years with a particular man, and after a few years they separated. Since their separation, she has been depressed about the issue and sometimes even tries to turn back time, which seems somewhat futile and certainly unnecessary. The point is that she strongly wishes to return to him because she understands that a person has one fixed soulmate predetermined and it cannot change, and she is convinced that she has no other chance with anyone else since he is her soulmate, and no one else will be a true match for her. I recall hearing in one of the shiurim that in the current generation this is not the case, and that each person has several soulmates, so I told her this. However, I felt she did not fully trust what was said. I would be grateful if you could provide a more serious and well-established source so I can research this matter further. Regards, Koby
Answer
To the questioner, Apologies for the delayed response. I have not found a source for more than one soulmate. Some say that since the soulmate depends on a person's deeds, and a person changes in their merits, his soulmate can also change for the better. However, the way a soulmate is revealed to a person is through Divine Providence that guides the person to their match, and then the inner desire of both parties to marry long-term with their root soulmate is revealed. If, however, through this Providence it becomes evident that the man (in this case) is not drawn or inclined towards a match in which his inner desire to marry long-term with this woman appears, this itself is a clear indication that he is not truly her only soulmate predetermined from the root. And if she nevertheless continues to seek someone who is not her true soulmate, then she is disregarding the revelation of Providence that has been revealed to her for her benefit. The correct approach is that she should trust Hashem with simplicity, pray to Him, and ask that, with His help, her true soulmate be revealed, the one who is indeed her root match. What could help her remove her thoughts from the first man already explained is to imagine how good the man is who is truly her soulmate; to think that he possesses all the qualities that were in that man she had, but that he is far better than him. And after she merits to distance her mind somewhat from that man, may it be Hashem’s will that this itself will open the way for her to be prepared for the one she truly needs from Heaven to build with. With blessings, Rabbi Nahum
