Faith (Emunah)

3 Ways the Torah Helps Us Find Inner Peace

By judging others favorably, letting go of revenge, and releasing grudges, the Torah shows us how to calm the heart and live with greater peace and balance.

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Seeing the World as a Safer Place

Imagine living with the feeling that everyone around you is hostile or uncaring. Over time, this feeling can grow into the belief that the entire world is a dangerous place. This mindset often leads to anxiety, fear, and sometimes serious emotional distress.

To prevent this, the Torah gives us guiding principles that help us build a healthier and calmer view of life. These principles are not only mitzvot we observe, but habits that shape who we are when we practice them regularly. The Torah teaches us three foundations:

  • Judge your fellow righteously
  • Do not take revenge
  • Do not bear a grudge

When these values become part of our daily thinking, they protect our emotional well being and help us live more peacefully.

Judging Others With Kindness

The commandment to judge your fellow righteously is not meant only for judges in court. It applies to every person in everyday life. It teaches us to look at others and choose the most positive explanation for their actions.

This mindset benefits both sides. People who judge others harshly often live with constant tension, suspicion, and inner discomfort. When someone is always convinced that others have bad intentions, their world feels unfriendly and threatening.

In contrast, someone who judges others favorably experiences a calmer and more secure world. This outlook builds inner confidence and emotional stability.

Judging favorably does not mean ignoring reality. It means recognizing that we rarely know the full story. Many details are hidden from us, and we should leave room for that uncertainty.

Imagine standing in the rain and seeing a friend drive past without stopping. It is easy to feel hurt and assume they ignored you. But the Torah teaches us to consider other possibilities. Perhaps they did not recognize you, perhaps the car was full, or perhaps they were rushing to an emergency.

Even when no positive explanation comes to mind, remember moments when you yourself were misunderstood. Extend the same understanding to others that you wish they had given you.

Releasing Revenge and Grudges

Our natural instinct when hurt is often to respond with anger, revenge, or by holding a grudge. We may feel that this teaches the other person a lesson or protects our dignity.

The Torah strongly warns against this approach. Revenge and grudges do not bring healing. Instead, they keep pain alive and continue to harm the one holding onto them.

Holding negative feelings creates stress and emotional pressure, which can affect both mental and physical health. Letting go, although difficult, brings relief, calm, and inner peace.

Forgiveness does not mean pretending nothing happened. It means choosing not to allow the hurt to control your thoughts and emotions. This choice frees the heart and allows a person to move forward with strength.

Building a Peaceful Inner World

When a person regularly practices judging others favorably and releasing grudges, their relationships naturally improve. Family life becomes calmer, friendships grow stronger, and social interactions feel safer and more pleasant.

These Torah values shape a balanced and joyful life. A person who trains their mind to see others with kindness and refuses to hold onto resentment gains a healthier spirit and a more peaceful heart.

By striving to grow in these areas, a person can reach higher levels of emotional maturity and live with greater happiness, ease, and inner harmony.

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