The Hour That Changed Everything: When I Bought Tefillin

I was a pretty ordinary person. Secular, reserved, living my life. I wasn’t especially happy, but I wasn’t sad either. I just didn’t feel much of anything. I had a wife, two daughters, and a stable routine.

And yet, something was missing.

I didn’t know what it was, only that something inside me was closed. I couldn’t feel real joy, and I couldn’t feel sadness. It was just… nothing.

A Strange Connection

The only thing that ever managed to touch my heart was the Lubavitcher Rebbe.

Even just seeing his picture would affect me. His gaze drew me in, though I couldn’t explain why. I didn’t understand what was happening inside me or why I felt so disconnected from everything else.

One Simple Question

One day, after finishing a meeting with a client, a man with a strong spiritual presence, he asked me a simple question:

“Do you put on tefillin?”

I said no.

Within an hour, I had bought a pair.

I began putting them on every day. At first, nothing really changed. Life continued as usual.

But slowly, something began to shift.

Learning to Feel Again

Little by little, I started to feel.

For the first time in nearly 20 years, I felt something awaken inside me. At first it was small, just a faint sense of connection, a quiet love for Hashem.

And it kept growing.

At the same time, my life was changing in other ways. After two daughters, our first son was born. I still didn’t feel overwhelming joy, but I kept putting on tefillin.

Then everything changed.

Breaking Through

For several days, I felt as if my entire identity was unraveling. There was anxiety, confusion, and a deep internal shift, like layers of my personality were being peeled away.

Memories resurfaced, including a traumatic experience from 16 years earlier. I began to understand that I had been protecting myself by shutting down emotionally.

Over the next few months, I became a different person.

A person who feels.

Suddenly, I felt joy. I felt love. I felt connection to my wife, to my children, and to the people around me. My heart opened in a way I had never experienced before.

At the time, I didn’t connect it to tefillin. I simply knew that something profound had happened.

A New Connection

After a difficult three month break, I returned to the synagogue on a Friday night.

This time, I felt the prayers.

Really felt them.

I continued putting on tefillin, and my connection to Hashem deepened. It felt as though He was present within my heart.

For the first time, I experienced real happiness.

The Shabbat That Changed Everything

At some point, I asked myself: why not try keeping Shabbat?

I had tried it before, but I hadn’t felt anything. Still, I decided to give it another chance.

That one Shabbat changed everything.

What I experienced cannot be explained in words. It wasn’t just joy. It was something far beyond joy, beyond any pleasure this world can offer.

It was a sense of holiness so powerful, so real, that it transformed me almost instantly.

For several weeks, I continued to feel that same elevated state.

If I try to describe it, the only way I can is this:

If you took all the happiest moments of my life, combined them, and multiplied them by a thousand, it would still not equal even ten minutes of that Shabbat.

A Life in Progress

Since then, I have continued to grow. I’ve strengthened my observance in many areas, Shabbat, tefillin, kashrut, and more.

I am still in the middle of the journey.

And I am still hoping that, in time, my wife will join me.

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