A Rosh Hashanah Reset: Creating a Meaningful Parenting Vision for the New Year

Rosh Hashanah is a holiday of parenting and of birth. It is a time when we can give birth to something new within ourselves.

If you’re here, motherhood is not something you take for granted. It’s not something you just “do along the way” because you happened to find yourself in the role. Motherhood is your work. It’s your life. And more than anything, it is your service of God.

Have you written your vision for the new year yet? Not a business vision, not a financial plan, and not even a self-fulfillment vision. Let’s write, together, a vision for a new year of motherhood.

We’ll divide this vision into four parts: A Good Eye, Aspirations, Challenges, and Investments. Each section includes guiding questions. Not all of them will speak to you — answer only those that do. If a question feels uncomfortable, set it aside for now. Come back to it when it calls to you again.

A Good Eye

Here, you look at yourself with kindness. Without searching for flaws, without guilt, and without focusing on what’s missing. Right now, you focus on what is.

What do you love about your motherhood?
What strengths does motherhood bring out in you?
What beautiful moments did you experience this year as a mother?
What meaningful process did you go through with one of your children this year?
What would you like to keep exactly as it is in your parenting?
If your children were asked about a sweet moment they shared with you — what would they say?
What treasures are your children learning from you indirectly, just by watching who you are?

Aspirations

Here, still with compassion, from a place of longing and appreciation for yourself, you also look at what isn’t yet. If you could step into a magical cave and emerge transformed — what kind of mother would you be?

What kind of mother do you dream of becoming?
What kind of atmosphere do you want in your home?
Which child would you like to love more deeply than you currently do?
What kind of anchor or bonding ritual would you like to introduce into your family?
What values do you aspire to instill in your children?
How do you imagine each of your children in five years? As parents themselves?
What would you like your children to take from your parenting into their own future homes?

Challenges

Here, you bravely look at the gaps — the ones that accompany you daily, and the ones that occasionally rise and tighten your throat with pain or fear.

In which relationship with one of your children do things not flow smoothly? Is there tension?
How “at home” do you feel in your role as a mother?
In which situations do you suddenly realize you are repeating patterns from your own parents, even though you promised yourself you wouldn’t?
At what times of the day do you feel you are not the mother you want to be?
When do you feel your sense of leadership slipping, and how does that feel?
In which recurring situations do you lose regulation and feel overwhelmed?
What specific challenges are you currently facing with your children that you want to work on this year?
What would you like to let go of in your motherhood this year?

Investments

What do you want to learn about parenting this year, and where will you learn it? (Books, podcasts, courses)
What regulation habit will you introduce into your life to support your nervous system?
How will you refill your emotional “fuel tank” this year?
What good thing for yourself will you schedule into the coming year?
What can you introduce into your afternoons that will help you stay present?
What did you once love to do that has disappeared since becoming a mother — and how can you bring it back, even in a smaller form?

Now, let the words and thoughts settle, like a gentle dusting of magic. You don’t need to rush to act, change, fix, schedule, or decide. Those are words of action. Right now, we are working with awareness.

Awareness is soft. Attentive. Slow and quiet.
Like a baby gazing at the world in wonder.
Like a flower slowly growing upward.
Like a mother learning how to be a mother.