Why Is It Forbidden for Me to Marry a Non-Jew?

Greetings and blessings.

It is absolutely impossible to marry a non-Jew, and no rabbi in the world can permit you to do so, and certainly not to participate in such a wedding; by doing this, you are severing yourself from the Jewish people.

At the outset, I will explain the essence of our holy nation, which is different from all other nations.

Unlike other nations whose greatness has led them to trample upon the rights of others, we, who received the Torah at Mount Sinai, are the children of a King who have many obligations that no other nation has; the Jewish people, due to their uniqueness which I will elaborate on, were commanded 613 mitzvot (commandments) and not just seven like all other nations.

From the beginning of creation, equal opportunities have been given to all the inhabitants of the world. At the same time, as people strayed from the service of the Creator during the days of the Tower of Babel, there was one, Abraham, who turned his back on them and publicly declared the name of Hashem at the cost of his life, and for that, an eternal covenant was made with him. His descendants continued in his ways, and as you will learn from the golden words of Maimonides in the first chapter of Hilchot Avodah Zarah.

Not only that, when the time came for the giving of the Torah to the Jewish people, Hashem - out of the principle of equal opportunity - offered the Torah to all the nations of the world, and they all rejected it, unwilling to accept the yoke of the Torah and mitzvot and to disconnect from their evil ways, as required by the text at the beginning of the section of blessings, a single nation answered, 'We will do and we will hear,’ and that nation was the Jewish people. The other nations have no reason to complain about the outcome, as it is their own doing.

We are fortunate that Hashem revealed Himself to us and indicated to us the path that we shall follow and the expectations He has of us.

We are privileged that the treasure of souls intended for the chosen people flows within each of us, souls from the world of Atzilut - the most spiritual and highest world, while the other nations are not at this level and were only given a soul from the world of Asiyah - this world, and they do not have the power to influence their actions on the repair of the world or its corruption as we can.

Hashem chose - as a result of the aforementioned circumstances - the seed of Abraham, which will be the group from which holiness will flow, and in his progeny will come the holy souls from the highest level, which is why we, the children of Hashem, cannot intermarry with the children of the handmaid.

Intermarriage is forbidden by divine will as expressed in His Torah with severe warnings not to mix the seed of the living with other nations, and not to lose the special uniqueness of the Jewish people. This is not racism, as there is no disgrace in this command; it is simply a directive for this group to continue to preserve itself to ensure that this group does not disappear from the world.

It is clear that nations without prohibitions against intermarriage have intermarried among other nations, and over time, not a trace of the ancient nations has remained as a result.

Since the global purpose for which the Jewish people exist is an eternal purpose, we must ensure that this nation continues to exist forever, and the first principle to guarantee this is to preserve identity by preventing assimilation.

See in the Book of Deuteronomy (Chapter 7) the Torah's prohibitions against intermarriage, expressed most categorically.

Throughout the generations, even Jews who sank to the lowest depths have known and warned their descendants, 'Remember, you are Jews, and do not marry those who are not of your people.' This is not merely a religious viewpoint; it is a human perspective for any people that wishes to preserve its unique identity.

At the same time that Jews began to assimilate in Germany, anti-Semitism began. If Jews do not distance themselves from intermarriage, there will be Nuremberg Laws prohibiting Jews from marrying Germans, and the like.

You have no idea in the world of souls how far your soul is from the soul of the Christian girl you have met, light-years apart, and how depressing it is that this is the only transgression about which it was stated by the sages that one stands with their partner before the Heavenly Court without the ability to free oneself, simply 'bound like a dog,' Hashem protect us from the terrible humiliations in view of all the souls of family members present there. I certainly do not want to awaken fear through words; this is not the correct way, but one must internalize how mad this idea is - a slap in the face to all the generations that preceded you, even to the patriarchs, that you, who are the last link today in a chain of hundreds of generations, are pulling all the chain to an entirely different destination.

I will not hesitate to copy what is written in the holy books about how this action is viewed before the Creator, like someone who takes the head of the king and forces it into a filthy lavatory, Hashem protect us.

And it is better to act quickly. To ease the severance, consider from time to time the terrible and cruel murders suffered by hundreds of thousands of our people at the hands of the Catholics in the name of the Catholic faith, - the 'religion of kindness and mercy,' during the Crusades, and the expulsion from Spain, etc.

[Among the murdered, of course, were also your ancestors from generations past].

Those hundreds of thousands could have easily saved their lives through assimilation with you, and they willingly chose to climb onto the pyre rather than connect with you; apparently, there is something to be wary of regarding these people even if you do not currently understand why.

Flee from her like fire, and more than that, and peace be unto you.

May Hashem help you succeed in your trial.