Relationship with a Gentile (Christian)

Peace and blessing.

Heaven forbid that you become attached to this man; flee from him as from fire.

First of all, it is proper to know that although the bodies of the Children of Israel are very similar in physical terms to the body of one who is not Jewish, the clear truth is that in the bodies of the Children of Israel, Hashem drew down a supernal light called a soul, whose root is beneath the Throne of Glory. This soul is a part of Hashem above, and it is higher than the root of emanation called an angel. By contrast, in the bodies of the nations, Hashem did not draw down that same supernal light, since they refused to accept the holy Torah, which is united in the root of the soul of Israel. Therefore they did not merit this supernal extension of the Jewish soul, and the root that animates and dwells among the nations of the world is a lower illumination from seventy supernal forces, which are far, far beneath the level of the souls of Israel.

The beginning of the illumination from the above-mentioned roots is drawn even into the seed that flows in the body at the time of relations. With the Jewish seed, the higher root of the Jewish soul unites, namely Jewish life; and with the seed of a gentile, the lower roots from which it itself derives unite, namely non-Jewish life. Therefore, one who mixes seed with the living flesh of the body of a foreign woman cannot imagine or describe the magnitude of the damage he causes, as he draws a part of Hashem above into a place of impurity according to its level, and in the holy books this is likened to one who takes the king's head and immerses it in the toilet of a filthy latrine. Forgive the comparison, but that is truly so.

There is no, and cannot be, a soul connection between a Jew and a gentile. The spiritual differences in the source of the spirit that animates them are immense beyond any measure. If one were to say that the distance between them is like a billion light-years, even then I would have minimized the true distance between them. There is no, and will be no, situation in which a Jew can give up his Judaism and become like a gentile. The prophet Ezekiel already foretold this in the sacred language of his prophecy (chapter 20): "And that which comes into your spirit shall not be, that you say: Let us be like the nations, like the families of the lands, to serve wood and stone. As I live, says Hashem, if not with a strong hand, an outstretched arm, and poured-out fury, will I reign over you."

Jewish halacha is what determines the status of the child that is born. If the father is a Jew who has abandoned his holy seed into the womb of a woman who is not Jewish, the son will be a gentile in every respect, with the spirit that animates the gentile from the root of the seventy princes. On the other hand, if a gentile comes upon a Jewish woman, the child born will be Jewish, but according to kabbalah he will need much refinement because a Jewish soul had to be drawn into seed that is not Jewish seed. And in your specific case, according to your words, halacha classifies you as a Jew with a Jewish soul in every respect. You are even, in the root of your soul, at a more elevated level than that of a convert who has converted!!!

You have no soul connection with your gentile boyfriend, with his family, his religion, or his belief. Your soul stood at Mount Sinai at the chosen event of the giving of the Torah, together with my soul and the souls of all the House of Israel. Therefore you are absolutely forbidden to continue the relationship with him, and know the magnitude of the damage in the spiritual worlds that you are bringing the seed of the gentile into your midst and into your womb.

I would be glad to help you further in making a well-informed decision, either by email or by phone.

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