Faith
Is it permitted to go to the cemetery on Friday after midday?
Question
Hello, I have two urgent questions.
1. Is it permitted to go up to the grave of the deceased at the twelve-month memorial on Friday after midday?
2. When is the Kaddish said upon the completion of the year after the passing, according to the day of death or the day of burial?
Thank you very much
Answer
Greetings,
1. It is possible to go on Friday after midday (see in the book Nitei Gavriel, Aveilut, part 2, chapter 82, section 11).
2. The memorial should be held on the day of death and not on the day of burial, even in the first year (Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim, siman 568, section 8; Mishnah Berurah, subsection 44; Rema, Yoreh Deah, siman 402, section 12; Taz, subsection 9; and Shach, subsection 10. וכן ruled in Chazon Ovadia, Aveilut, part 3, page 200, that the main thing is to hold the memorial even in the first year on the day of death, though he wrote that those who customarily hold the memorial in the first year on the day of burial have what to rely on).
Good tidings,
Hillel Meirs
