"Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and do not forsake your mother’s teaching" Can you explain the saying so I can explain it to my son?

Rashi on Proverbs, chapter 1, verse 8: "Hear, my son, your father’s instruction" - what Hashem gave Moses in writing and orally. "Your mother" - your nation, the congregation of Israel, as in (Ezekiel 19) "What is your mother? A lioness"; and these are the words of the Sages, who innovated and added and made safeguards to the Torah. Ibn Ezra on Proverbs, chapter 1, verse 8: "Hear, my son, instruction, etc.; your mother’s teaching" - for the wise woman directs her son along the straight path, as Bathsheba did, who instructed Solomon, and the word al is a language of appeasement in the response, and from this is "alqum עמו אל מות": Rabbi Yonah - Proverbs, chapter 1, verse 8: "Hear, my son, your father’s instruction." Four preliminaries are necessary in order to succeed in serving Hashem.

The first is that one should attach himself to good companions and teachers who are beneficial, and desire to hear their rebuke, as it is said: "He who hates reproof is brutish" (12:1); "He who hates reproof will die" (15:10). The second is that one should be careful to avoid all bad company, and not associate with the wicked lest they cause him to stumble. The third is that one should set before his mind delight and peace, reward and recompense, and fear Hashem, for there is no success in serving Hashem without fear. And the fourth is that one should engage in wisdom, and it should be dear and beloved in his eyes, and he should toil over it, and the toil over it should seem light in his eyes, as in the verse, "and they seemed to him but a few days" (Genesis 29:20), etc. And he should take care not to involve himself in empty and harmful external wisdoms, nor associate with those who differ in them, lest they cause him to stumble and his feet turn aside.

And the study of wisdom will save him from this, so that the heretics will not cause him to stumble, and he will not meditate on their books or believe their words, and through these preliminaries he will succeed in serving Hashem. And our Sages said: fear leads to action, and elsewhere they said: great is study, for study leads to action (Bava Kamma 17a). And when he is diligent in action, abandoning sin and fulfilling the commandments, he will reach the levels, as will be explained. And behold, in this order that we have written for you, you will see the sections at the beginning of this book arranged and explained, and the ways of service and fear, their order and their secret, will be revealed to you. Now begin with the commandment of parental rebuke, for parents desire to correct the son’s habits and improve his conduct. And one of the warnings mentioned repeatedly in this book is that one should caution the son to listen to his father’s instruction. And the father must rebuke him.

And the reason for this principle is that a child has not yet fully developed the instruments of his understanding until he grows older, and the inclination of man’s heart is evil from youth. Thus he conducts himself according to his desire, for he has no help from his intellect to rebuke his soul and abandon the ways of his desire; and after he accustoms his soul in the days of youth to follow his desire, the power of desire within him will grow stronger, and when he grows up and his power of understanding is complete, and he seeks to depart from the way of desire, it will be difficult for him because of his growth and his habit. Therefore his parents must help him with their understanding, rebuke him, and guide him in the straight path in his youth, so that even when he grows old he will not depart from it. And the way of rebuke is explained by another verse: "Train a child according to his way" (22:6). And what our Sages said indicates the matter we mentioned: 13 years before the evil inclination precedes the good inclination in the blessing - Binyamin Shmueli