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How Does G-d View Our Complaints? Rabbi Jonathan Rietti
Does G-d owe me anything? Is it really so bad to complain? Rabbi Jonathan Rietti shares fundamental lessons for life
How Can I Get My Family to Help With Passover Cleaning?
When you complain what does your family hear? How can you elicit cooperation?
How to Respond to your Wife’s Complaints
Each spouse should focus on what applies to him/her rather than focus on the responsibilities of the other
Rutgers U: ‘Anti-Semitism is Freedom of Speech; Only a Jewish Blog Complains About It”
That’s why it’s really okay in case you didn’t know
Dear Rabbi, I do my best to watch my speech and avoid speaking negatively about others. However, I said something recently, and it’s been bothering me, and I want to know if I spoke lashon hara (evil speech) or not. I’m presently in the process of shidduchim, and there is one shadchanit (matchmaker) whom I’ve never actually met in person, but with whom I’m acquainted over the phone. She suggested a boy to me, and said that “He wants to know if you have a profession…” The conversation ended, and I later told my mother in frustration that it’s a chutzpah that boys have such demands today when we didn’t even meet yet! If he’s learning, and I’m doing my best to support us, he should say ‘thank you’ whether or not I have a profession. My mother, naturally, validated me. A similar incident occurred when someone asked to see a picture of me before we went out… Again, I complained to my mother about the chutzpah that people have in this generation and that it takes all my desire out of meeting them altogether. My question is if what I said was lashon hara? I was speaking very generally, not about anyone in particular. I don’t even know the shadchanim personally, and I’ve never met the boys who made these demands. Thank you!
Additional questions from Baltimore
I was asked another question here in Baltimore regarding a lecture by Rabbi Zamir Cohen on the topic of Adam's two sons, Kain and Hevel. We see that Hevel served G-d from the way he chose to offer a praiseworthy korban (offering). If so, why was his fate just like his name - "Hevel, nothing?"
If people were punished for their sins in the Holocaust, then are the Nazis guiltless?
During a lecture I watched, the question was addressed to Rabbi Yosef Ben-Porat: “Where was G-d during the Holocaust?” From watching the video it seems that his view is that the Jewish people were punished during these days of wrath and experienced the horrors of the Holocaust due to their assimilating and deviating from the straight path. The Nazis carried out the punishment and were merely tools implementing the Creator’s punishment. If this is the case, then we have to accept heaven’s decrees, and how can we complain against the Nazis? This sounds absurd and incomprehensible, but there is no other logical conclusion from his well explained and organized lecture. Nevertheless, we say may the Germans and Nazis’ names and memory be blotted out. Isn’t this remark implying defiance of G-d’s Will? His words are incomprehensible. His excellent and coherent explanation and his conclusion seem to completely contradict each other.
My 17-year-old sister smokes. Should I tell?
I came from a non-observant family and I became religious. Both my parents smoke and despite that, my father hates cigarettes and is infuriated when us children smoke. My 17-year old sister [younger than me], told me the other day that she started smoking, and of course she asked me to keep it a secret. Despite my complaints that it is not healthy and bothers people and all the other bad things about it, she said she wants to continue. She claims that currently it is good for her and she's old enough to decide. Am I obligated to tell my parents, my father or my mother? I do not know if it will cause her to stop or maybe she will only conceal her smoking and it will make it worse. On the one hand, I am concealing this from my parents and not telling them of the danger she is putting herself in, as any devoted sister should; on the other hand, I don’t want to undermine the trust between me and my sister.
Proper Communication - How to Complain
What is the difference between a complaint and a criticism? What is the proper and most effective way of phrasing a complaint? In this ninth session of The Marriage Seminar, Rabbi Shafier gives us guidelines to proper communication in marriage
Southern Fried Corn Chex Chicken Schnitzel Sandwiches
In my house, anything on a burger bun gets a standing ovation. If the bun is combined with our favorite version of chicken schnitzel, I can guarantee hugs and kisses to last me throughout the day. I am not a huge fan of white-meat chicken schnitzel done the traditional way. But when my daughter complained that everyone else had them for dinner and we don’t, I decided to make my own recipe to keep us both happy, and I created this version.
When one suffers distress, is it a decree from heaven?
I read more than once that if a person makes your life miserable, you have to believe that your suffering was sent from G-d and the man is only a "stick" in G-d’s Hand. My question is whether this exempts a person from punishment? For several years, my sister-in-law has made my life miserable. Should I accept this suffering with love and believe it is from G-d? Or do I have the right to protest and uphold my dignity?
Golan Druze leader Poohpoohs UN Complaint About Difficult “Israeli Occupation”
Mayor of the largest Druze town in the Golan: “I don’t understand what they’re talking about, it’s laughable”.
Belgian tennis player to Maccabi player: ‘You should all have been gassed’
Tennis club suspended player; Jewish competitor filed complaint with police.
How to get children to keep Shabbat?
I get this feeling that people who do not want their children to be religious precisely have children who want to keep Shabbat and the other commandments, and I, who so much wants my children to keep Shabbat and the commandments and be religious, have the opposite. I am battling all the time with my son and daughter. My husband and I keep commandments and Shabbat, and my children attended a religious school and yet I see that they don’t want it. I see others who don’t want religious kids, and G-d gives them children or children-in-law who became religious and want to be observant. I pray a lot that that my children will go in the way of Torah. What else can I do? I am devoted to Judaism but my son does not want it. He keeps a little, he prays with his small tallit and goes to the synagogue on Shabbat but he does not keep all the Shabbat laws. What should I do?
How come the Torah allows a man to marry several women?
I wanted to ask a question that has been bothering me for a long time and still bothers me even though I became religious a few years ago. How can the Holy Torah, which was given by the Creator who understands the hearts of all His creatures, allow a man to marry more than one wife? As a woman, it is completely incomprehensible to me. It doesn’t appear a step that any woman can make peace with. Some say that Rabeinu Gershom’s ban against marrying more than one wife was valid for only 1000 years and therefore now it is permitted. But besides that, we want to base our lives on Torah laws and not on laws passed by non-Jewish governments. How can I wish for this reality if this is the Torah law? The Torah is above time, and therefore the reality of marrying two women or more should be appropriate even in our times. I do not think that my feeling is unusual and I think a lot of women would feel like me. How is it that G-d allows such unbearable grief in His holy teachings? I would greatly appreciate hearing your reply. I ask only that someone well versed on the subject answer my question which is asked from the heart rather than as a complaint.
I wanted to ask you about this woman who suffers from an autoimmune disease since she was seventeen years old. Although she is on dialysis, she is very grateful to Hashem for her life, but I can’t understand why He doesn’t heal her. Why does she have to suffer terribly so many years? We know that Hashem performs miracles and that everything is for the good, but I don’t understand the ways of Hashem. If I’m not mistaken, it says in Pirkei Avot that “ al korchacha ata chai ” that one lives against his will, meaning that he suffers and he says he is unable to go on or something along those lines.
May a child be cross with his parents?
My second son is almost 23 years old, married with no children. He is chareidi and we are more liberal. He became more religious and is now a very religious Litvak. It has been almost a month that he isn’t talking to us, he and his wife completely broke off contact. He is angry with us for various reasons, but it is not related to our observance. On the contrary, we have great respect for him and help him out. Now that it’s before Yom Kippur, I’m wondering, as his mother, do I have to ask for his forgiveness? I forgave him in advance for his childish and problematic behavior, and I am not making a big deal of it, I want to believe that hopefully things will work out in the future, and I do not want to hold any bad feelings and complaints against him in my heart. I forgive him wholeheartedly. Do I still need to ask him for forgiveness? I believe with all my heart that I didn’t do anything bad to him, and that his reaction is very wrong. I would appreciate your quick reply.