Raising Children
Why Learning an Instrument Is One of the Best Things a Child Can Do
From stronger memory to greater perseverance, playing an instrument can give children valuable skills that last beyond music.
- יצחק איתן
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Learning to play an instrument can start as a simple childhood hobby and, for some, eventually become a lifelong passion or even a profession. But the benefits of music lessons can reach far beyond learning how to play a song. Experts in child development suggest that one of the most valuable lessons children gain from making music is perseverance: learning to keep going when something is difficult and discovering that improvement takes time.
In a world where children are surrounded by screens and instant entertainment, learning an instrument asks something very different of them. It requires patience, concentration, repetition, and consistent effort.
Learning That Progress Takes Time
Playing an instrument can teach children an important lesson that applies to many areas of life: success rarely happens immediately.
At first, a new chord, melody, or technique may feel frustratingly difficult. The child has to repeat it again and again, make mistakes, and continue practicing even when progress seems slow. Then, weeks later, something that once felt almost impossible suddenly becomes easy.
That experience can be incredibly valuable. Children see firsthand that their own effort led to improvement, strengthening their sense of confidence and self-efficacy. Instead of simply being told, “You can do difficult things,” they have evidence that they can.
This perseverance can extend beyond music. Learning to tolerate frustration, break a difficult task into smaller steps, and continue working toward a goal are skills children can carry into school and other challenges they encounter as they grow.
Music Gives the Brain a Workout
Research has also linked musical training with a range of cognitive benefits. Playing an instrument requires several parts of the brain to work together at the same time. A musician may need to read music, listen carefully, coordinate the hands, remember what comes next, maintain rhythm, and make adjustments almost simultaneously.
This can help exercise skills involving concentration, organization, impulse control, and working memory. Research cited by the BBC has also suggested that people who played instruments during childhood may show stronger auditory processing later in life, while musical training has been associated with benefits for memory and creative problem-solving.
Music is therefore much more than a creative activity. For a child, practicing an instrument can be a complex mental exercise that develops multiple abilities at once.
An Outlet for Emotions and Stress
The benefits are not only cognitive. Music can also give children a healthy way to express and regulate their emotions.
A child who is frustrated, excited, sad, or overwhelmed may find that playing music offers an outlet for feelings that can sometimes be difficult to put into words. At the same time, practicing teaches patience. Mistakes are inevitable, and children gradually learn that frustration does not mean they need to give up.
Playing music with other people adds another dimension. Being part of a band, orchestra, ensemble, or even an informal family music session requires listening to others, cooperating, and contributing to something larger than oneself. This can strengthen social connection and create a meaningful sense of belonging.
Music can also become something families enjoy together, whether parents and children play instruments, sing, or simply share an interest in learning and listening.
The key, however, is not to turn music into another source of pressure. Excessive expectations, comparisons, or demands for achievement can quickly transform an enjoyable activity into a stressful obligation.
Instead, parents can focus on curiosity, consistency, and progress. A child does not need to become a professional musician for music lessons to be worthwhile. The greater value may lie in everything learned along the way: how to practice, how to make mistakes, how to manage frustration, and how to keep working until something that once seemed impossible finally becomes possible.

