The Secret to Stronger Relationships: Ask, Listen, and Appreciate

A young man walked into a neighborhood store and asked the owner if he could use the phone. The owner nodded, and despite himself, found himself overhearing the young man’s conversation.

The young man called someone and asked whether they were looking for a gardener.

Judging by his response, the person on the other end told him that they already had a gardener and did not need another one at the moment.

The young man persisted. “Are you satisfied with your gardener? Is he professional enough for you?”

Apparently, they replied that they were very pleased with their gardener, because the store owner heard the young man continue, “Would you perhaps consider replacing him sometime in the future?”

Once again, the answer seemed to be no. The young man politely thanked them and ended the call.

The store owner felt sorry for him. The young man had tried so hard to find work, only to be turned down.

“Listen, young man,” he said. “I couldn’t help overhearing your conversation. I’m sorry you received such a disappointing answer, but take some advice from someone older than you. You seem determined and ambitious. I’m sure better days are ahead, and you’ll have plenty of work.”

The young man looked at him and smiled.

“Thank you for your concern, but I’m actually very happy with how that phone call went. You see, I’m the gardener who works for the family I just called. That’s my way of making sure they’re satisfied with me and that I’m doing my job properly.”

On a Personal Note

Friends, if we want to grow and build stronger relationships, it is worthwhile from time to time to ask the people closest to us: Am I treating you well? Are you happy with the way I relate to you? Is there something I could do better?

At the same time, it is just as important to express our appreciation directly. Tell the people close to you that you value them. Let them know what they are doing right.

They should not have to guess what you think of them or search for reassurance through indirect means. Sometimes a few sincere words of appreciation can make all the difference.