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Can’t Stop Racing Thoughts? 8 Simple Ways to Calm Your Mind
Practical techniques to quiet intrusive thoughts, reduce mental overload, calm the nervous system, and bring more peace and focus into your day
- Shira Priant
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As women, we are expected to be available most of the time, if not all the time. We are supposed to function no matter what is happening, stay alert for the next situation, and somehow remember to smile through it all. There are so many demands placed on us, and our minds can feel as though they never stop jumping from one thought to another.
Those thoughts often seem to overwhelm us precisely when we need calm and concentration the most. According to Courtney Carver, an author and advocate for simpler living, the more we try to ignore our thoughts, the louder they may become and the more attention they demand.
To help break that cycle, following are eight practical ways to slow down a mind filled with racing thoughts.
1. Put It All on Paper
When your mind is filled with things you need to buy, ideas for your next staff meeting, and worries about the future, your brain is working hard to make sure you do not forget anything.
Instead, get everything out of your head and onto paper. Take a notebook and spend five to ten minutes writing down whatever is going through your mind. Once the information has been transferred from your mind to the page, your brain no longer has to work so hard to hold on to every detail, which can help reduce stress.
2. Take a Breath
Breathing is one of the quickest and most accessible ways to help calm the nervous system. When your thoughts are racing, shallow, tense breathing can intensify feelings of anxiety.
Try a simple deep breathing exercise, such as inhaling for four seconds, holding for four seconds, and slowly exhaling for four seconds. This can signal to your body that everything is okay and help slow your heart rate.
3. Turn Off the Screen
Digital screens flood the brain with constant stimulation, which can encourage racing thoughts. Set aside an hour each day to disconnect from your phone or computer.
Instead, choose something calming, such as reading a book or listening to an uplifting Torah class.
4. Come Back to the Present
When your mind races ahead toward worries about the future or backward toward regrets about the past, your body is still here in the present.
Try the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique: Find five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste.
This exercise redirects your attention toward your senses and can help interrupt the cycle of repetitive thoughts.
You can also take a walk in nature or simply look at calming images of beautiful scenery.
5. Move Your Body
Tension stored in the body can sometimes show up as troubling or repetitive thoughts. Physical movement can help release some of that tension.
Take a short walk, try gentle yoga, stretch, or choose any type of movement you enjoy. Exercise can release endorphins while also shifting your attention away from the thoughts occupying your mind.
6. Schedule a Limited “Worry Time”
It may sound strange, but this technique can be helpful. Set aside ten to fifteen minutes each day when you allow yourself to worry.
When troubling thoughts come up during the day, tell yourself, “I’m saving this for my worry time tonight.”
This approach can help train your mind to understand that there is a specific time set aside for dealing with certain concerns, rather than allowing them to take over the entire day.
7. Listen to Calming Sounds
Certain sounds, such as white noise, ocean waves, nature sounds, or meditative audio, are often used to create a calmer environment.
Try putting on a relaxing playlist while you are working, resting, or trying to unwind. You can also turn off your screens, sit down with a good book, or listen to a podcast.
8. Practice Self Compassion
Sometimes, trying too hard to fight racing thoughts only creates more stress.
Instead of fighting yourself, try meeting the situation with compassion. Tell yourself, “It’s okay that my mind feels overloaded right now. I’m human, and I’m having a difficult day.”
Self acceptance can reduce the internal struggle and may make it easier for thoughts to pass naturally.
Learning to slow down racing thoughts is a skill that takes time and practice. Do not expect perfection from yourself. Simply choose one tool from this list and try it the next time you notice your mind beginning to race.
Which of these tools will you try today to help bring more calm into your life? Share your answer in the comments.

