Articles by Rabbi Aryeh Ettinger

Why can one criticism erase a hundred compliments? A thought-provoking look at self-worth, boundaries, and the courage to stop living for everyone else's approval.

As divorce threats grew stronger, a counseling session revealed the hidden pattern driving this struggling marriage.

A couple came seeking help for their daughter, but the sessions revealed a deeper emotional pattern shaping the entire family.

A worried wife came seeking help for her husband, but the conversation revealed how marriage often reflects deeper truths about ourselves.

They shared a home and children but not a single word for four days. What began as a painful argument revealed the deeper truth behind their struggle.

Torn between her husband’s wishes and the values she grew up with, one woman discovered an unexpected answer during a late-night moment of clarity.

What happens when one person stops pulling? A practical Torah based insight into relationship struggles, parenting challenges, and emotional growth.

What do you do when your partner won’t listen? Discover how to communicate with dignity, confidence, and emotional strength, even when your words feel ignored.

Who am I to change people, emotions, and behaviors? I can’t do that. So what is the role of the therapist? Rabbi Aryeh Ettinger explains.

A painful holiday moment in the therapy room reveals how anger toward children can mask unmet needs in a marriage, and how honest self awareness becomes the first step toward change.

He appears calm, capable, and endlessly giving. Beneath the surface, emotional distance has become a form of protection. A therapeutic journey reveals how numbness is formed, how it shapes marriage, and what it truly costs to begin feeling again.

Understanding the need and fear behind the patterns we've created has a unique and powerful element of acceptance. Rabbi Aryeh Ettinger explains.

What happens when being good becomes a survival strategy? This story exposes the quiet resentment that grows beneath people-pleasing.

A parent’s frightening experience reveals how guilt hijacks judgment in moments of fear, and how the same pattern quietly shapes our closest relationships.

How tying your happiness to your partner quietly creates frustration, and what it takes to step out of the pattern.

Addiction never affects just one person. This article explores how a spouse’s reactions shape the cycle of addiction and why couples therapy can open the door to healing for both partners.

Marriage requires closeness, but also emotional independence. Drawing from real stories and therapeutic insight, this article shows how differentiation strengthens both the individual and the bond between spouses.

One partner collapses inward, the other rushes to stabilize. This counseling story reveals how anxiety, pressure, and unspoken fears create a powerful but damaging relationship loop.

Breathing difficulties brought them to therapy, but anxiety revealed something deeper. A powerful look at how silence, fear of abandonment, and emotional imbalance can quietly suffocate a marriage.

What happens when spiritual aspiration turns into quiet self-doubt? A therapeutic dialogue reveals how comparison, unmet emotional needs, and fear can slowly undermine a person’s sense of worth.